In shock
2007-05-13
Went to my moms for mothers day family starts arriving, about 25 of us at this point when my niece calls to wish grandma happy MD, then told her that her sister is getting married, not next year but this year, WOW. I am not sad Im happy for her Bree is graduating this next Sunday from high school, she is 18 will be 19 in Sept and her boyfriend is 20. Okay sit back I'll telll you a little story.
Bree & Vanna were raised as Jehova Witness. The only religion they know, as youngsters the 2 girls always told us( the family) that when they are 18 they are leaving home etc. So Vanna left straight out of high school 2 years ago. My sister-inlaw shunned her, accused her of all sort of junk, and basically called her a wh---.drug addict, etc. Told her never come to visit her,call,write and so on, literally disowning her, and my brother who is not a witness followed suit, in his words," rules are rules, she decided to leave and live her own life so be it" Okay the child is broken, said to me her mom is a cold hearted bitch, and her dad holds his balls in his hand, her words people, and if that is what they want that is what they will get, so when she dated she made it a point to not tell anyone, afraid it would get back to mom and dad and they would make things harder on Bree. They did find out, mom came right out and told her if you marry him, we will not attend your wedding, you are on your own, we don't want to be grand parents , so dondt expect any thing from us. I know you are saying right now, come on Mary they cant just forget they have a daughter, OH YES they can and they did.
Now to Bree, everything was good until Bree told her mom I don't want to go to the kingdom hall anymore, I just don't want to do this anymore. Mom drags her in front of the elders to confess( Ha) her sinful ways. Can you even imagine a bunch of older men telling a young person that they are bad, because they don't want to remain in thier "religion", and then telling them they will be disowned. What the f***? If you remember I had mentioned my minister always tells us that religion stinks, boy let me tell you Im truely pead off.
By the way their brother Jake got married 2 years ago, of course if was all good, because he married within the church, what ever. Now brother is not speaking to them, shuns them etc.
Well Bree moved out Oct last year, with a school friend. She was 18 at the time. The A bomb went off in the parents home. We(the family) all understood why, and we acceepted that it was coming sooner or later, thought she would finish high school first. Mom in the mean time bad mouthed her and Vanna, blamed it all on VAnna, is this unbelievable, reading this as Im typing looks like Im writting a story, its real. Im thinking how in the world can you turn your back on 2 lovely girls, your own flesh and blood? I know it happens alot, but when it is in your own family, it just blows your mind. Especially when it is my own brothers' kids, I don't get it. Bree will graduate next Sunday, oh by the way, parents are'nt coming to that either, no party etc, I'm reeaally getting madder as I type this Yikes. God help me keep a cival toung. so Bree and Armundo are getting married June 20th this year and if I live that long after I have my stroke, I plan on attending. This young man is perfect for Bree, polite, brought up in a very loving,caring,God loving family. There is no doubt that he will take care of her and respect her, he shows that quality in him with no pretense of how he feels about her, love, Bree shines when he is around, you know how ya felt with the knot, sickining,flush ,rush you get when his or her name is mentioned, the slight touch of hands etc, it shows with the 2 of them. Made me so happy and also old feeling, watching all my nieces and nephews growing up all around me. I told her and Vanna I'll be your surragot mom, you need anything call or come right over I will be there for them.
Okay this is the last of it, sorry people I have to get this off my chest, or I will not be held responsible for what I say or may do. Ok parents found out about the marriage coming, here is what her mom did. Calls Bree, Bree is in school can't answer the phone. Mom leaves message: You marry this man, you are not welcome in our home, do not call, write or be in our presence, we want nothing to do with you, we will not pay or attend any function that you should have from this point on. You are on your own and you are not my daughter, now if you should want to come back to the JW you can come back home,and we will work on forgetting all this happened. I would call her back and say F U Very Much. But Bree cried and so did Armundo, I feel so bad for them, I told them I'm sorry for my brothers actions or no actions and how your mom is. This is all brain washing, it is not religion, it certainly is not christian way of doing things(i know it happens alot in the name of religion beliefs) but this is bs,these are your own blood, you carried for 9 months, watch them grown into adult hood,told them you LOVE them and then you turn your back on them, as if they dont exist.
Excuse me, Im crying too much, this is heart breaking to us(the family) I will stand by these girls and help in what ever way possible, as God is my witness they will not be turned away by me or others. My moms heart broke today on MD, she can't believe that a parent can do this to thier children, my mom had 13 of us, we gave her a run for her money, she never turned her back on us, thank God, we have her for our mom.
thank you for letting me vent, love to all.
Mary
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